March 2010

Newly single, there is one thing usually on my mind: where is my next orgasm coming from? As of this point, I am no longer having sex (or really having anything to do) with the ex. I told you, last month, it would be short lived. I do have a few bed buddies, but I really don't feel like returning to my "in-between-relationship" pattern.

What would be the point? I don't orgasm outside of a relationship. But does having an orgasm really matter? I am starting to get use to the idea that good sex doesn't always mean an orgasm is involved. Oh God, I sounded like my mother just then! I should be grateful, however, as I know there are many women in the world who will never experience an orgasm.

Sex-with-the-ex was decent, but that is it. Nothing to brag about. Sure, I would usually orgasm, but certainly nothing mind blowing. I admit I can get cranky when it comes to sex. If I am with someone and he doesn't make me orgasm, I get pissed! That is if I am in a relationship with the guy. In my sick twisted head, I feel as if he is saying he doesn't care about me. I know I am mental. If he is just a fuck buddy, then it is no biggie. I am not supposed to come. I say, "Thanks, hon'," and out he goes.

Strangely, the best sex I ever had was with a fuck buddy who never made me orgasm. Orgasm was not the point. This guy was romantic and intimate. He set the mood from music to low lighting. Everything was erotic, but no orgasm. If I was in a relationship with this guy (or a guy like him), I have no doubt I would pop my top! Wow, I never thought I would be OK with orgasm-free sex, but as I get older, it is becoming more acceptable to me...kind of.

When it comes to sex, I am spoiled. Multiple orgasms come easy to me (yes, pun intended), especially when I am doing it myself. To put it as bluntly as possible, no one fucks me like I do! If I want it to last longer, I can do that. And, I never have to fake it. I don't have that kind of control when I'm with a man.

Hmm . . . I think I just answered my own question. I know where my next orgasm is coming from, who it's coming from and how good it is going to feel. So if my friends don't see me for a while, just leave me a message. I'm busy.

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